Genesis 13:5-8 “Now Lot, who was moving about with Abram, also had flocks and herds and tents. 6But the land could not support them while they stayed together, for their possessions were so great that they were not able to stay together. 7 And quarreling arose between Abram’s herders and Lot’s. The Canaanites and Perizzites were also living in the land at that time.
8 So Abram said to Lot, ‘Let’s not have any quarreling between you and me, or between your herders and mine, for we are close relatives.'”
Over and over we see the connection between pride/desires and conflict with others. When we feel that we deserve something: a job, a prize, or a certain lifestyle, we can forget that for which we can be thankful. I believe that one path to healing is to turn to God and to thank Him for anything that is a blessing. It’s good to be reminded to praise God through good and bad because He deserves getting credit for providing for us regardless of what we do for Him. Furthermore, it at least functions as a distraction if nothing else. When we do this, we also can remember that all is not lost, and that there is still a bit of hope left.
Recently, I have been pushing through some disagreements in my household. When reading the scripture above, I noticed the exact situation happening–people quarreling over the divisions of the rooms in the house (based on how much everyone could pay). Pride comes into play when some people do not want to give up and compromise and I’ve found that it’s easy to get angry when something stands in the way of what I’d like. Ultimately, this scripture is helpful in reminding me that people are more important than anything else. God asks us to be loving and merciful to each other in the same way that He is to us. Remembering God’s mercy helps to build patience in these matters and also helps to relieve some stress about the situation because God helps us to accept rather than holding on to the fight.